When any trauma happens, humans to one degree or another will almost in variably react in some way. If the trauma is a physical one, such as being involved in a motor vehicle accident, one can respond by flinching, screaming and on a physiological note, going into circulatory shock (Princeton), or passing out. With a psychological trauma, shock may also manifest as well as insomnia, fatigue and muscle tension on a physiological level, but also psychological aspects such as denial, anxiety, withdrawal, aggression or numbness may also be present. All these are a natural and to some extent cathartic reaction to a trauma (Guinaugh, 1987). However there is a societal phenomenon of passing off traumas as unimportant and pretending they illicit little to no reaction. This behaviour is commonly known as having a ‘Stiff upper lip’ (SUL). In this entry, we will investigate some of the motivating factors behind this behaviour.
According to Capstick & Clegg (2013), this particular behaviour is a result of ‘biting back’ the expression of trauma in an attempt to control an aspect of a situation that usually flings a person deeply out of control: the aspect of their own emotional and outward reaction. As seen with many forms of coping strategies and disorders after trauma, the need to regain control plays a significant role (Finklehor & Browne, 1985). One method of regaining this control which may contribute to SUL is denial. It is important to distinguish denial from memory suppression or repression, although the two are interlinked heavily. Denial is an active assertion that an incident either never took place or minimising the trauma and effect on that person. Suppression however is the internalisation of denial to such an extent that one actively forces thoughts out of consciousness. Repression is when this is done on an unconscious level (Cherry, 2013).
Another factor which may drive the SUL type behaviour is our environment. In a society where outward displays of emotion or distress are seen as socially unacceptable (Ettinger & Cate, 2007), suppressing the outward exhibition of emotions after a trauma may be a way to maintain a social status. It also may exhibit a fear of lack of sympathy from others, and thus hiding the emotion removes the possibility of embarrassment from rejection. This is shown through societies where outward displays of emotion are acceptable, but only when directed at strangers – the better you know someone the more emotionality is considered unacceptable. The fear of being rejected by those we hold dear would outweigh the fear of rejection from strangers.
Overall it can be said that SUL behavior has a clear and concise motive: to minimalize the impact of the trauma that has occurred and to reduce the chance of further trauma being sustained.
References
Capstick, A., Clegg, D. (2013). Behind the Stiff Upper Lip: War Narratives of Older Men with Dementia. Journal of war and culture studies, 6(3), 239-254. DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.1179/1752627213Z.00000000021
Cherry, K. (2013). Repression and suppression. Defence Mechanisms. As found at http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/defensemech_4.htm
Ettinger, R. H., Cate, K. L. (2007) Emotion and Stress. Understanding Psychology. Horizon Textbook Publishing
Finklehor, D., Browne, A. (1985). The traumatic impact of child sexual abuse: a conceptualisation. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 55(4), 530-541. DOI: doi: 10.1111/j.1939-0025.1985.tb02703.x
Guinaugh, B.(1987). Catharsis in therapy: Primal therapy. Catharsis and cognition in Psychotherapy. 61-88. DOI: 10.1007/978-1-4612-4776-0_7




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